Dirk Powell : I Ain't Playing Pretty Polly

My original song, I Ain't Playing Pretty Polly, now available on Compass Records: https://CompassRecords.lnk.to/yGTum From the album "When I Wait For You" release date Sept 4, 2020, pre-orders here: https://CompassRecords.lnk.to/WIWFY Audio by Dirk Powell. Videography by Irena Eide. Editing by Jody Spence. More info about the song: I grew up playing and singing “Pretty Polly.” I was really proud to have learned a unique version of it in the “overhand” banjo style from my grandfather in Kentucky. One evening I was singing it during a soundcheck and heard the words “he stabbed her through the heart and her heart’s blood did flow” coming out of my mouth… and I just stopped cold in the middle of the verse. I thought about my grandmother, my mother, my sisters, my daughters. I thought about pervasive violence against women and the way men are given the bulk of the story in songs like these, and often some kind of twisted romantic glory or sympathy… and I said to myself “I’m never singing this song again.” I will not give any more energy to the stories of men who hurt, abuse, or kill women. Period. I understand that, for some people, there are complexities — some say that the songs are a needed warning to young people, or just highly dramatic tales, or that tradition trumps looking at them this way. But... I’m just never singing them again. I’ve seen the looks of hurt and confusion on my daughters faces when such violent words are accepted or brushed aside. And I've seen fear in my grandmother's eyes as she gave warnings to my sisters about men. Instead, I choose to sing, as I do here, about women like my Aunt Myrtle and men like my Uncle Clyde, who were together from the 1930s to the 2000s. Their relationship was full of love, gratitude, tenderness, and respect. Those are the stories I actually know, from my own life, and those are the stories I’m going to tell.